I asked him why he'd become disillusioned.
He told me he felt the apostle Paul had subverted Christ's message, and substituted Rules and Legalisms for Love and Forgiveness. I asked him to give me an example so I could see for myself; he said, "It's my impression."
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Years, many years ago, I had the same impression of Paul.
But re-reading his letters now, Paul's love, compassion and total conviction about Christ is undeniable.
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What did I do?
I told this man I'd felt the same way ... until I'd re-read Paul's letters to see what he said, instead of reading to confirm what I expected he'd said.